LA Dating: 3 Strikes You’re Out
Since when has it become acceptable for guys to deliberately flake? I understand if you have a work “thing” that ‘s running late and you can’t make dinner; these things happen, once or twice. But, if it’s happening consistently, it’s time to move on to greener pastures; the jig is up and you’re doing the dirty with the cleaning lady (J/K).
Side note: If you start to see a pattern in his schedule that he’s almost always staying late after work then you should probably stop accepting his dinner invitations for 7pm. Might save you some frustration in the long run; just a thought…
Anyway, living in LA is hectic in the sense that we have an extremely high traffic rate, constant interruptions, and everyone seem to want “a favor” ALL the time. Life can get stressful and overwhelming, I get it. But, if you make plans with someone then you should stick to them PERIOD. Once you start flaking that label sticks with you and no one wants to be labeled as a “flake” any given point in life. People start to not take you seriously and all those really amazing private event invites go out the window to someone who’s more responsible.
Unless you’ve been abducted by aliens, eaten by sharks, or kidnapped by the KKK, then there is no excuse for you not to be punctual. Or, at least, have the decency to call within a fashionable time to cancel or delay your social affair. I suppose living in New York for a year has made me value peoples time and I personally feel that it’s disrespectful to keep people waiting unless you’re Beyonce, then it’s fine.
This brings me to my most recent dating encounter. I decided to be charitable and agree to date a guy that was no more than a five, and that’s generous. Why you ask? Well, he was nice, funny, tall, and most importantly had amazing music taste. Pretty much we bonded over a playlist at a party and I thought I’d give him a shot. Not to toot my own horn but when a girl like me agrees to date a guy like that, he should be at my mercy. Don’t take that the wrong way, but let’s be real, the gold fish doesn’t hang out with the flounder.
Anyway, this guy has some nerve to flake on me not once, not twice but THREE times. In baseball I do believe that is called a strikeout and you are out of the game buddy. And, to further add, he had the audacity to keep calling to reschedule. As Chris Tucker would say “You done lost yo’ mind son!”
What was his reasoning for flaking on our dates? Wait for it, wait for it….
- He got stuck at a work seminar.
- His friend just broke up with his girlfriend (who disturbingly resembled Sinead O’Conner) and he needs to be there for him through this tough time.
- He blacked out and his phone died.
Ok, ok, so the first reason is a standard excuse. Work related cancellations get used more than the saying “Yolo”. Fine, he can have that. But, getting belligerent on the Standard rooftop and completely forgetting that you made plans with me? #checkplease
In all honestly, if you’re a flakin’, ima walkin’. Guys, take note, don’t be an asshole and be respectful of your date and her time. There’s nothing more unattractive then a flake or a liar.